Isn’t it hard to have a relationship when you are traveling all the time? Do you ever have a girlfriend? People often ask in response to hearing about my perpetual solo travels.
The brutal truth is that yes, it’s very hard to have and maintain a long-term relationship when you travel. One of the major downsides to long-term travel is the perpetual singleness that goes along with it. When you are always on the move, you are never in one place long enough to build a lasting relationship with someone. Right as it’s about to blossom, it’s time for you or them to go. But while relationships are difficult to keep, they do happen.
Finding romance on the road isn’t hard but finding long-term romance is. In all my situations, as much as we try to keep it going with visits here or a vacation there, it was just too hard keep. Absence makes the heart grow fonder for only a certain period of time. After a while, it forgets. Every day all over the world, thousands of travelers get together and then quickly say goodbye as they move to the next city.
It’s hard but not impossible. I’ve met lots of couples while traveling. I even attended the wedding of one couple who met on a beach in Thailand. But what makes those relationships work is that eventually someone moves or maybe they both move. But someone changes their life – and you need to be ready to do that.
While a lot people wish to find that special someone while sitting on a beach in Bali or exploring the streets of Paris. We have this idealistic notion of travel romance. However, the realities of your route, time tables, or flights often get in the way and it becomes much harder to really keep things going. One of you eventually is going a different way.
So what do people have on the road then? What I call “destination relationships.” You meet someone, you hit it off, and, for that place and time, and you are together. When it is time for someone to leave, the relationship ends.
Bonds form very quickly on the road, whether a friendship or a relationship. Without “life” getting in the way, people become instant best friends. And, in this case, instant couples. You don’t think about tomorrow or the person’s past. You simply enjoy each other’s company for as long as it will last.
Destination relationships give travelers a chance at human contact, but without all the messy emotions that so often get involved, there’s no baggage. There’s a clear start and end date. There are no messy breakups. Often times you remain good friends.
People travel to explore the world for themselves, which is why so few people change their plans, even after they meet someone. It’s a big step to change your whole trip around or stop it completely because of someone else. That puts a lot of pressure on the relationship, and most of the time, no one ever wants to think “What if I had kept traveling…” I’m a believer that if things are meant to be, they will work out. If you meet someone and it’s meant to be, it will work. Maybe not right now, but in the future.
Because if you both feel the same way, you will make it work. You’ll find a compromise. Travel romances are like all other long-distance romances – hard, challenging, and, sadly, with a horrible failure rate. Visit http://www.allasiatravel.com